~In defense of Laura Ingalls Wilder~

I've written over 1,200 blog posts since I began this writing journey in May of 2011.  Originally I began writing for the sole purpose of letting my family and friends back home in Kansas know that I was safe during the Bike Across Kansas of 2011.  That's what the blog address "peggysbakjourney" refers to.  Once the bike trip was finished, the blog was to come down and I'd go about my life as usual.  Well, that didn't really work out and many stories later, here I am this morning.

I have on purpose stayed far, far away from anything political or controversial in my writings.  I have told my students countless times as I shared my blog with them as a teaching tool in class, that there was one cardinal rule that I always followed when I wrote and that was this.

I never write anything that would bring dishonor or disrespect to myself, my family, my community, my school, or my state.  What I do write will be positive, uplifting, encouraging, and the truth. 
To me, that aspect of writing is more important than making sure a period is never overlooked or a word is capitalized.  In the six traits of writing, I try to emphasize the voice part of it, and when you read my words then you will know me.

Today I choose for the first time to write about something that in 1,219 blogposts before I have never done.  

Recently, members of a library association thought it would be better to remove the name of the beloved children's author, Laura Ingalls Wilder, from one of the prestigious awards that they give each year.  Their reasoning was that in some of her books, Laura writes with racist overtones in reference to people who are different from her.  Several of my parents and friends messaged me yesterday with links to the story.  They know how much I have enjoyed reading Laura's books to my classes each year.  Since 1979, I have shared each of her books with kids in Kansas, Colorado, Texas, and now Oklahoma.  I have always said that Laura's writings were the "meat and potatoes" of children's literature and I always wanted my students to get the benefit of reading her books.  When I first saw the story links for the recent decision to remove her name from the award, I couldn't believe it and my first thought was this.

That's ridiculous.

In my experience as a teacher, I can tell you that children everywhere love Laura.  Children of all backgrounds, races, economic classes, from all across America and around the world have been enthralled by her stories of life on the prairie.  Never once as I read those books, all 8 of the original ones, did I feel like I was sharing anything bad with children.  I would be the first to admit that there were tiny parts in one of the books that I knew kids might not understand, but those parts provided the fodder for conversation between teacher and child, and ended up being a valuable life lesson in the making.  

Laura's writings provide wonderful character education lessons and have done so for well over 85 years now.  Her memories help to teach lessons of courage, determination, fortitude, faith, family values, hard work, adventuresome spirit, teamwork, and most importantly telling the truth.  That is what I feel I am doing today by writing this blogpost.

I'm telling you the truth of how I feel about what in my heart looks like an injustice to Laura's memory.  

As a teacher, I have only so many precious and quite fleeting moments with children each day.  I have to choose wisely what I spend my time on because once that time is finished, I cannot call it back.  I love to read to children and promote what I feel is very wholesome literature.  I will stand by my conviction and continue to use Laura's books this year in my classroom.

On a personal note, one of the reasons I love the Little House series is because her words take us back to a time that was much simpler.  That's a welcome respite for those of us who live in the fast paced and technologically advanced world that we are a part of in 2018.  For 20 minutes each day, I can take my students back in time to that world and let them see how things were before everything was plugged in.  I can show them how a pioneer family had to work together in very meager circumstances in order to thrive and equally more important, to survive.

Although I cannot change the ruling which removes her name from the award that is given, I can sing her praises in this post and in the future as I promote her books to a new class of students.  You know, I was a little nervous about writing these words at first.  Like I said, I steer far, far away from controversy.  But now that I have finished, I'm glad that I did.  I choose to stand for many different things in this world.

Today I stand for Laura. 

~back at the original site in southeastern Kansas where the Ingalls family lived for not quite 2 years, Little House on the Prairie~  Springtime of 2018

~walking forward in faith to find it~

I spent the greater part of the day doing a task that was long overdue.  A huge storage container, one that moved from Kansas to Colorado and then onto the plains of Texas with me, has sat in the corner of the closet in the spare bedroom just waiting for me to go through it.  It's been one of those out of sight/out of mind possessions of mine and this morning I thought it was as good a time as any to go through it and decide what, if anything, I really wanted to keep.

We have lived in this house for well over 2 years now.
It was about time.

When I took the lid off this morning, I wasn't sure what I would come across inside.  I do recall the day back in Hutchinson when I was trying desperately to get the last of my things packed and moved to Montrose.  I came across the contents of the tub in my bedroom back there in the house on East 14th Street.  I knew that I really shouldn't keep it all, but I didn't have the heart to throw it away that day.  So I did the only thing I knew to do when faced with little time left.

I just put the lid back on and took it with me.
In 5 years' time, I'm not sure I ever really opened it, let alone went through it.

As I dug through the layers of stuff inside, plenty of memories came back to greet me.  Pictures, letters, cards, newspaper clippings, obituary announcements, and a variety of trinkets that really had no other place to go could be found nestled deep inside.  Little by little, I took everything out and sorted through it, stopping to read the messages that had been left over the course of the last 40 years or so.  I couldn't believe all the things that I had deemed important enough to keep, and much of it really had far outlived its usefulness.  The kitchen trash can had to be emptied 3 times before I finished but at last I was done.

As I was getting ready to put the lid back on the storage container, I happened to notice an envelope on my desk that hadn't been taken care of.  As I reached for it, I caught sight of the return address written in a scrawl I recognized as my very own.  Reading the words that I had written was a sweet memory of a young girl from "the land of long ago, and far, far away."

It's been a long time, as a matter of fact 42 years of a long time, since I was called "Miss Peggy Scott".  To see my name there, a reminder of who I was before I got married and started out on my own was kind of strange feeling.  For the life of me, I cannot tell you why.  It just seemed strange, that's all.  The return address of Rt. 1-Haven, KS  67543 reflects where home always was.  Our family lived on a country road just south of town in an old 2-story farmhouse that only 3 weeks after I got married in 1976, burned to the ground.   It was a great house to live in all during my high school and college years.  My bedroom was upstairs and faced back to the north.  In the late evening hours of the summertime, I'd lay in bed at night and listen to a portable radio that always brought in KOMA out of Oklahoma City or WLS out of Chicago nice and clear.  The songs of the '70's played into the wee hours of the morning but my mom and dad never cared about the noise.  My folks were just that way.  Oklahoma City was a good 4 hour drive from home in south central Kansas but with the radio on, it was as if I was right  there. I'd imagine what it would be like to actually go to places like that when I was older, and I dreamed about what life would be like in my future.

Little did I know the places it would take me.

I found a picture earlier this morning as well, one that I'd forgotten having, that was actually my senior picture in high school.  45 years have gone by since I posed for that photograph over in a portrait studio in Buhler, Kansas and the young girl that I used to be looks so much different than the 62-year old woman I am today. 

The 17-year old girl that I used to be was quiet and kind of shy, with waist length long brown hair that was perpetually parted right down the middle.  My blue eyes were set in a gaze somewhere across the room.  I'm not sure why I wasn't smiling for the picture.  Perhaps it was one of the somber and serious pose moments.  There were no wardrobe changes or your own choice of different backdrops or props like is the practice of today.  You just walked in, hoped your hair looked decent, and the photographer took your photo.  There wasn't any need for me to check my make-up, because I never wore it then nor do I today.  Long ago, my dad told me something that ended up saving me a whole lot of time and whole lot of money.  To this day, I remember his fatherly admonition and thank him for telling me.

"Peggy Ann, you are pretty enough without putting that makeup stuff on.  You don't even need to wear it."  And since my father said it, I believed him.

Finding the picture and my name in the return address on the back of an old envelope took me way back in time.  That young girl who would not get married for 3 1/2 years after high school was completed, had an interesting life ahead, but she had no idea of where it was taking her.  At that time,  I couldn't have imagined being a mature woman who was nearly 63 years old.  I'm sure that back then I would have likened my current age to "wow, that's old."  

From a farmhouse on an old Reno County country road to a home along the Red River in northern Texas, I have to say it's been a great life.  I'm closer to the end than to the beginning these days, but that's not a concern.  The future is still ahead of me and I walk forward in faith each day to find it.  

~for when the time comes for a change~

It's the early morning hours here along the Red River, and save for the whirring of the fan in the living room there is not a sound to be heard except for the clicking of the computer keys as I write these words.  Used to be that Sally the Dog would wake up when I did, doing her best to coincide her early morning bathroom break with mine.  I'd take care of my own business while Sally took care of hers.  By the back door I would wait for her until I saw her coming to greet me.  She'd wait patiently for her treat by the washer and after she got it, would promptly head back to the floor by Mike's side of the bed and return to sleep.

We lost little Sally several weeks back now to the effects of old age.

Life changed around here.

There has been so much change for me in the last 5 years since Mike and I got married in May of 2013.  At first the differences were pretty unsettling and ones that I wasn't sure I could get through.  For a Kansas girl to be ripped by the roots from the prairie of the Sunflower State and transplanted into the mountains of southwestern Colorado was quite a shock.  Homesickness and extreme loneliness nearly got to me and many days I wondered what on earth I had done by leaving my home of well over 50 years.  I liken my first 4 months there to the way my geraniums look when I transplant them into new containers during the 100 degree  heat of a midsummer's day.

Wilted.

But that changed too.

I grew to love my 2 year's time in the mountains and a new life with Mike.  It took a community called Olathe, Colorado to save me, but they did just that.  My teaching position for two years in that rural town just 10 miles north or so of our home in Montrose was the very best thing for me.  It was great medicine for my lonely spirit, and as long as I live I will remember them for that.  When the time came to leave in May of 2015 for a new life here along the plains of Texas, it was with sadness that I bid a farewell to them.  One thing I have learned from the experience was this.

God puts people where He needs them to be.  Those two years were my time to teach there, and the relationships that were made were done so for a purpose.  There was a reason for it all.

And so now here we are in northern Texas, only 5 hours south of the place where it all started for me so very long ago now.  Change has followed us here as well.  People that we have loved with all of our hearts are now gone, folks who were some of the very reasons that we chose to move to this part of the world to begin with.  As for me, I have taught for 3 different school districts since we arrived here 3 years ago.  Although I was able to teach many children and grow to know and love their families at Petrolia, Texas and Randlett, Oklahoma, those two schools were not the ones that God intended for me to remain at.  Once a very good friend of mine told me something that I won't forget.  Her words actually explain how I was feeling about the constant moving of classrooms for 3 years' time.

"Peggy, it's like God intends to use you in a whole lot of places.  He sees where the need is and sends you there.  You might only be needed for a year and then He will send you on to the next place."

And actually I have grown to believe that is just the case.

I have written about change many times over the course of this blog's inception back in May of 2011.  Today in this the 1,218th post that I have made, I write of it once again.  You know, I don't think I ever really considered all that much before now just how much life has to change in order to get to where you are going before your time on earth comes to its completion.  Always before, I just kind of went along for the ride.  Now in the summer before my 63rd year, it looks me square in the eyes and reminds me every day that I'm not in charge of things.  

Thankfully, someone much wiser and way more omnipotent than I will ever pretend to be takes care of that.  Nothing is a random act of this crazy universe we live in.  It's all planned out, and when we take the time to open our eyes and hearts to see it, life gets a whole lot easier.

It's very heartwarming to realize how people are put into your lives at just the right moments of time, folks just like our dear friends LeRoy and Anne.  I took care of Anne's mother when I was working as a CNA back in Kansas.  They became my friends and it was LeRoy who walked me down the aisle and gave me away when Mike and I were married in 2013.  They are such good people, ones who have saved us from ourselves at least once since then.  

Back in Montrose, we used to take daily walks near our home just outside of the city limits.  Once when we were walking, Mike made friends with this beautiful horse who acted like he was going to just come on home with us.  Mike has a gentle spirit and is good with people and animals alike.  The last 5 years since we were married have been fraught with change, both good and bad.  We have made it through some tough times because of one thing we promised each other to do.

We stick together.

These dear children called me "teacher" last year at Grandfield and even though I will sorely miss them, it was the time for them to go on to 3rd grade in just a couple of months more.  Change is inevitable but I'm grateful, truly so, that I get to return there for this upcoming school year.  I believe it is where I was destined to be.  

~as we remember to be thankful~

We live in the "land of plenty".  As a matter of fact, most days I think that Mike and I live in the land of more than a plenty.  Recent stories and happenings at the southern border of our country make me realize more than ever that I should give thanks for everything I have and even more importantly~

Give thanks for what I have not.

As a teacher for the past hundred years, (ok, ok really only 40), I've tried to teach children in the best way I knew how to be grateful for the things they were given each day.  Mike and I buy snacks for the kids to enjoy at school because there is no way to fill up a child's mind with knowledge when their belly is sitting at "E".  But before those snacks even leave my hand, I expect surely to hear the words please and thank-you.  It's a given.  I've encouraged the kids as they go through the breakfast or lunch line at school, to remember to acknowledge to the kitchen staff led by Miss Bernita, their gratitude for a meal.  By the way, that's all the time and not just when it's their favorite menu.  One of the ways I like to teach the polite act of using good manners, utilized when I don't happen to hear a child say "thanks",  can be taught when a child needs a pencil sharpened, a shoe tied, a new piece of paper to start over on, or any one of the thousands of requests a teacher might hear during a school year begins like this.

"Ok, there you go!  That will be $12.79 or a ........."
And they always reply with gratitude.  They get in the habit and it comes naturally.

Once, and I just love to remember this moment and the expression on a sweet unsuspecting child's face, I helped one of the kids in another class open up something on their lunch tray.  When I had finished, I looked at them and said......

"There you go sir!  It's open now.  That will be $5.00 please."
That poor little kid looked at me with such a shocked expression on his face.  He wasn't sure what I meant or what to think.

"But Mrs. Renfro I don't have $5." he said back to me.
One of my own students who happened to be sitting near by gave him a gentle nudge, and with the cutest little grin, whispered something in his ear.

"Oh....  thank you!", he said back to me with a smile on his face.
Sometimes, well probably better stated many times, all of us take things for granted.  I stand as the line leader in this matter more often than I ever would like to admit.  This upcoming school year, my plan is to lead my children in many discussions of what we should be grateful for during the school day.  A guy doesn't really think of it all that often, but it does come to mind when all of a sudden it's no longer there.  A good drink at the water fountain, restrooms that work every time you need them, library books that can be checked out and taken home, a school building that is kept neat and clean like ours at Grandfield is because of Miss Mary, a principal like our own Mr. Longoria who is a fine role model and exemplary leader, bus drivers who get us safely back and forth each day like Miss Lucy, lights that come on at the flip of a switch, teachers and support staff who genuinely care about kids, and a gazillion other things are those which I intend to talk about with my students.  Fodder for the acquiring of life lessons, my favorite of all to share with children, is rich and ready for the teaching on one of the most important subjects of them all.

~giving thanks~

From 2011~summer school back home in Kansas and spending time doing the job that I love so very much.  I'm thankful to be a teacher.

~and it had everything to do with lemon drops~

Miss Irene Thompson was my second grade teacher back when I was just a little 7-year old girl attending a small rural school in Burrton, Kansas.  I know that she was a great teacher and that I must have learned many things from her but to this day, now 57 years later, my fondest memory of her had nothing to do with academics.

It had everything to do with lemon drops.

Miss Thompson was what we referred to back then as an old maid school teacher.  Once we kids asked her, and I remember it pretty plainly because only two years prior we foolishly asked our kindergarten teacher the very same thing, a question that was pretty blunt and to the point.

"How come it is that you aren't married and don't have any kids Miss Thompson?"
And in a sweet voice, she replied back with the very same answer that Miss Josephine Marmont had told us as kindergarteners.  

"But I do have children.  All of you are my children."
So, ok then.  
We were her children.  
End of questions.

Miss Thompson's old wooden teacher desk was always kept at the front of the room, and to the best of my memory it never moved from that spot all year long.  I know it wasn't bolted into the floor but you would have thought so because it never changed locations.  In the bottom drawer on the left hand side, she always kept a cellophane bag full of lemon drops.  When kids got to coughing during cold and flu season, Miss Thompson would slowly pull the drawer open and reach inside to retrieve one for whatever kid was ailing.  Those sweet yellow candies coated with sugar, also came in handy when a kid did well on a spelling test or was missing their momma and wanted to go home.  Our teacher knew full well the enticing power of a piece of hard candy to the little kids we all were back then.

One of many things you could say about Miss Thompson was this.
She was very smart.

I've been a teacher for 4 decades now and had the chance to see hundreds of kids come in and out of my classroom.  For some reason today, I've been wondering something.  I wonder what it is that kids will have remembered about me in the years to come when they no longer are young.  When they sit back in the summer of their 63rd year, what will they remember most about a teacher named Mrs. Renfro?

I hope that they remember first of all the most important thing that I wanted them to know.
Their teacher loved them.

                              For all the teachers who loved a little girl like me, thank you!  

~and that was what the planting was all about~

The scraggly green plants had little to show for their more than two months' growth.  Certainly when I pulled up the first plant from the straw bale it had been growing in and found little more than a mushy mess instead of a clump of new potatoes, the inevitable seemed to have happened.  Plant after plant told the same sad story.  Our venture into straw bale gardening had come up short.  Really short.  Months of watering, watching, and waiting for a bumper crop of potatoes had not worked out.  We tried, but in the end one thing was for sure.

It was our successful failure.

Back in the early days of March, Mike lost his job as the manager of the local hardware store here in town.  The day that the door closed for the last time and the store went out of business was the beginning of a different pathway in life for us.  To go from having two paychecks coming in each month to a time of learning to get by on only one, was a brand new experience for us.  Immediately Mike filed unemployment papers, started the online job search, went to interviews for possible positions, and waited.  For well over 5 weeks, there was no prospect really in sight and it was unnervingly scary to be sure.

In between looking for work and refiguring our life here along the Red River, we both took to the backyard to make some improvements we'd been planning on all along as well as get our garden going for the spring.  Last year Mike had made a series of raised garden beds, all from scrap material that he had accumulated throughout our time here.  The only thing that was lacking was good soil in order to fill the bed up to a reasonable level.  All along we had figured to spend the $500 or more that it would take to finish adding enough soil to get the planting started.  That was before Mike lost his job and now we were faced with the prospect of limited funds for the unforeseen future.

We made the decision to go ahead and get a single load of soil and build up one corridor of the garden area.  It was disappointing, really disheartening to think that our plans would have to be altered in such a way.  We had been talking about getting enough soil all winter long and I found myself dreaming of how wonderful the garden would turn out this year.  I remember kind of moping around out there, wondering what on earth could we do to make it work out.  For a moment, I felt like just giving up, and then came the idea of using straw bales to grow things in.

Mike had picked up 20 nice bales this past fall over in Haynesville and brought them home to be used as part of the layers in the garden.  They were arranged neatly in one of the corridors just waiting to be utilized this summer.  I remembered seeing that someone had used that kind of technique before, this growing things in straw bales, and had great luck.  I began to think.

Why not us?

Couldn't we give it a try?

And so we did.

With about $10 worth of seed potatoes, Mike and I set out to try and plant them in the straw bales.  It worked out great with 9 bales and 3 plants inside each one.  As we placed them in, my sullen disposition began to lift.  No longer was I fretting and worrying about whether or not we'd make it until Mike got a job.  Instead, I felt like we were taking control of the situation and not letting it control us.  I was happy and as I patted some earth around the last one, I felt such satisfaction in knowing that there is always more than one way to do something.

Even if there's not much money to go around.

In April, Mike found a new job and went to work immediately.  We took turns each evening keeping the straw bales moist and hoped that the potatoes would do what potatoes are supposed to do.  A couple of days before the hailstorm in late May, I noticed that they were beginning to bloom.  When the first hailstorm of the season hit later on in the week, most of the plants were mowed off by the wind projected ice pieces.  They never really came back from it.  

At first I felt like maybe this had all been for nothing.  We'd spent more than our fair share of time out there as we tried to nurture little Yukon Gold potatoes to sprout and to grow.  Water came down from Heaven and out of the garden hose spout.  Weeks and weeks went by.  

Nothing happened.

I began to realize something this morning as I walked out into the garden to see how everything else was doing.  I walked past those straw bales and in my heart I got a message and the message went something like this.

"God must have known we would not need a bushel of Yukon Golds in late June near as much as we needed hope that everything would work out ok in mid March.  That's what the planting was all about anyways.  We just had to wait a while before we saw it."

For the record, we made it just fine.

Thanks be to God.

In May of 2015, Mike and I took out from our old home in southwestern Colorado, climbed over the big mountain, and came down upon the plains of northern Texas.  We had no jobs and no home to live in.  We had no earthly clue of what the future would hold for us here along the Red River.  The past 3 years have brought some sad moments as well as many wonderful times.  We vowed to stick together, no matter what and that's our plan still.

   

~to be missed and still remembered~

Come tomorrow it will be a year now that Sherry left us, and this morning as I sit and reflect over all the changes that have happened since then, one thing remains for certain.  She is missed and still remembered.

A year ago today, I was over in Altus checking in on her at the hospice care area of the local rehab center.  I remember that it was the last time her eyes were ever really fixed on me and she acted as though she knew who I was.  I looked down at her, my big sister, and told her with tear filled eyes something I'd said many times in the months prior to her death.

"I love you."

And Sherry looked up at me with a half-smile on her face and mouthed back the words that she too had said so many times, not only to me but to countless others that she cared about.

"Love you more."
Sherry's eyes never met mine after that.  Often during that morning that I was there with her,  I would hold her hand and feel like maybe she was actually aware that someone was there with her.  Towards the end of the day though, I could tell that her grip was loosening up and was sure that the time would soon be at hand.

By the late evening hours of June 16th I received a call from my brother-in-law Wes who told me that she was gone.  You know, I didn't cry.  Instead, I rejoiced that the Lord had seen fit to just take her home once again.  No more COPD.  No more CHF.  No more breathing issues.  No more medicine.  No more bouts of anxiety and despair.  No more hurting.

No more.

The days that followed her passing on June 16, 2017 were ones fraught with uncertainty and loss.  Mike and I tried to be sure and check in on Wes as often as we could throughout the week. We knew that he would be lonely and lost after living with my sister for well over 40 years.  I prepared to go to school for the first time in 4 decades without her there to lend an ear when I needed someone to listen to me about how I could better do things in my classroom.  Summer passed and autumn came, followed swiftly by winter.  By late January of this year, Wes too had died and the feeling of profound loss never really went away.  Although it was quite a shock to lose them both so close together, in a way it almost seemed fitting.  

They were two hearts who had been together for so long.

We buried my sister on the Kansas prairie and honored Wes's wishes to be buried at the Ft. Sill National Cemetery.  One thing I am sure of, regardless of the fact of where their earthly remains shall lie in peace, is this.

They are together in Heaven now.

Tomorrow on the first anniversary of her death,  I refuse to sit around and be sad.  I am instead choosing to be happy.  I'm going to do things that are good for me, things that are fun and up lifting.  I'm not sure what that entails exactly but I figure I will soon find out.  I knew my sister for a long time, more than 60 years of a long time to be exact.  I know what she would want for me and for all others who loved her beyond compare.  It would be her desire and I'm sure Wes's too, that the living go on doing just that.

Living.

~it was how we were brought up and how we intend to stay~

Charles Nathan Renfro was not even yet 28 years of age when he died after being injured in a freak accident one summer afternoon in August of 1908.  As a section hand for the railroad, Charles was simply doing his job alongside the tracks when a bunker door on one of the refrigerator units slipped loose as the train sped by him.  The nearly 100 pound door hit him atop his head causing massive head injuries.  He was placed upon a railroad handcart and taken to town where the doctor realized that nothing could be done to save him.  In the hours following his accident, he was laid in his bed at home to wait for what would surely be certain death.

Late in the evening of the same day, Charles Renfro died.  He left a young 26-year old wife, a 3-year old little boy named Jack, and another 1-year old son named Charles.

Mike has been working on his ancestry, having taken the spit test for a DNA sample just as I did earlier last fall.  He already knew a little bit about Charles Renfro, his great-grandfather.  When we arrived in Texas in 2015, Mike's late Aunt Margaret Renfro Hutchins told us about him and a few of the sad circumstances surrounding his death.  It was always interesting to read and learn more about him through research on ancestry.  When he came upon a story of the accident, now nearly 110 years ago, it was with sadness that both of us realized how quickly his very young life was cut short.  Forever frozen in time as a 27-year old, the only way that Mike would ever know much about his Great-Grandfather Renfro would be to read as much about him as he could and to do yet one more special thing.

Mike had the desire to visit his grave someday.
Yesterday was that day.

We made the early morning trip to the IOOF Cemetery in Denton, Texas to find his grave and that of Mike's great-grandmother, Sally Renfro Hackleman.  We weren't sure where we would locate it but we knew that it shouldn't be all that hard, or at least we hoped!  It was Mike who spotted the graves first and as he called me over, I noticed the look on his face.  It was one of happiness and joy, something akin to meeting up with someone for the first time in a joyous family reunion, albeit in the city cemetery.  

The cemetery, located literally in the middle of Denton, Texas is only 116 miles away from us here along the Red River.  When great-grandfather was buried, chances are good his body was placed into a pine box and loaded on a wagon for the trip to the cemetery.  In 1908, the cemetery was outside of town in a quiet and peaceful setting.  In this the summer of 2018, well over 100 years later, the town of Denton has grown up all around his burial place, with the noisy traffic of I-35 going by in the distance. 

Times have changed.

I watched Mike as he paid his respects to them and could tell that his heart had been touched by being able to make this unlikely connection to a man who was born and died 50 years before Mike was even born.  Before we left, both of us walked around the cemetery a bit and stopped to read some of the gravestones that we saw, many of which were as old or even older than Great-Grandfather Renfro's was.  In as much as Mike and I are very different at times from one another, we do share one common character trait.

We believe in paying our respects and giving honor to the dead.
It is how we were brought up and how we intend to stay.

As Mike and I have gotten older, both of us realize the importance of knowing where we came from, and how we got our start in this life of ours.  Making the long journey to the cemetery was one way of finding out just who Mike is and whose blood indeed runs through him.  He never knew Charles and Sallie, but one thing shall forever remain the truth.

Their lives mattered to many people back then.
Their lives still matter today.
Mike Renfro can attest to that.

~and I can't wait to hug him once again~

My father died in late 1982 after enduring the pain and suffering of lung cancer for over 18 months.  Two weeks before Christmas Day on the 11th of December, I got the call in the early morning hours from the hospital back home in Hutchinson, Kansas that he had died.  I had seen him the day before and even though I knew how sick he was at the time, I figured sure that I would see him that next day.

I didn't.
He was already gone and it was too late.

My dad was only 59 years old when he passed away and I was just 27 myself.  I was a young wife and mother of a tiny little 2-year old boy.  At the time, hospitals weren't too obliging in the allowance of children under a certain age to visit the sick in their care.  I would sneak my little Ricky up the back stairwell of Hutchinson Hospital climbing 3 flights of stairs, all the while admonishing him to do one thing.

"Shh!  Don't say anything.  Be very quiet.  Grandpa wants to see his little boy."
And he was.

For years and years, I had a couple of personal goals in life that related to my dad.  The first was that I wanted to live past my 59th birthday, to attain an age that he was not able to.  In late October of 2015, I did just that.  The other goal was to be able to help take care of my mom after he was gone and do things that would make my father proud of me.  I hope that I have done that as well.  I miss him and I love him even still today.

The harvest season is in full swing here in this part of the world, and combining crews are traveling up and down the country dirt roads and highways finishing up fields, and then moving on north to Oklahoma and Kansas.  I think of my dad when I see wheat being cut and long lines of trucks as they wait patiently at the elevator here in town.  For over 25 years, my dad was out on the road with his own crew of harvesters bringing in the crops of farmers from southwestern Oklahoma all the the way back northward through Kansas, Nebraska, and both of the Dakotas.  When he brought in the last crops of 1977, it was time to stop.  For a variety of reasons, my folks thought it was better to quit while ahead.  It didn't take long for my dad's health to go downhill.  He loved the harvest and it broke his heart to no longer be a part of it. A great depression set in for him, one that he never really could shake off.  In 5 years more, he would be gone.

If you didn't get the chance to meet my father in this life, then you missed the opportunity to know someone who exemplified what a good and decent person looks like.  My dad never laid a hand on me in anger, never once saying anything bad or demeaning to me as a kid or a grownup.  When I did something wrong, and I'm sure there were many times that I did, he would just look at me with the saddest of expressions and tell me that he was disappointed.  That in and of itself was worse than any spanking or grounding that I could have been given.  

He was the father of 7 children and Dad worked hard to take care of us all.  In his own quiet way he taught me lessons of kindness, caring for others, and staying humble all throughout my life.  He was a good teacher, a fine role model, and indeed the greatest man I ever knew.   No matter how long I shall live, one thing will always be for certain.

I will never forget him.

My dad chewed Red Man tobacco and when he would spit it out, a good portion of the juice would land on the truck door.  He was so happy harvesting the crops of summer.  I will see him in Heaven some day.  I can't wait to hug him once again!
  

                                   ~wheat harvest memories from the summer of 1976~

~and the Maker is patient~

I thought the hailstorm of over 3 weeks back had ruined most of the garden and flowers here at our home along the Red River.  6 weeks of laboring to make the backyard beautiful had seemingly been erased during a 30-minute barrage of ice slamming from Mother Nature.  I was back home  in Kansas at the time the storm hit, and Mike called me to say what was happening.  He wanted to know if he should send a picture, and with a sinking feeling in my heart I replied.

"No.  Don't send one."
There was nothing I could do from over 350 miles away except fret and the truth was there was nothing Mike could do either.  The damage was already done.

I immediately set about surveying the mess of it all as soon as I got home the next day.  Nothing went untouched and I recall going through a gamut of emotions during the 10-minute time it took for me to see it all.  At first I was shocked and then overwhelmingly sad at the loss.  For a moment or two,  I was angry (like that would do any good).  Finally, and most wonderfully, a sense of determination to make it all look nice once again set in.  With new plants and seeds in hand, I worked for the next week to try to repair the mayhem from that which we have no control over in the first place.

~Mother Nature~

Some of the plants, like my cannas and sunflowers took the worst of the beating.  I didn't know what to do with them.  Once I thought that maybe I should just mow them off and forget about them.  Instead, I chose to let them remain and hoped that maybe somehow they would manage to come out of it.  3 weeks later that is just what they did.

 I loved the brilliant colors of the yellows and greens.  I believe they are even more beautiful after having been witnesses to a summer time storm than they would have been left untouched to grow on their own.

I guess flowers going through a hailstorm could be compared to all the times that I've been lain upon God's mighty anvil.  There have been numerous occasions during my nearly 63 years of living when I've had to go through the painful refining process to transform me into the person that I was destined to be all along.  It doesn't feel real good and at times has been downright painful to endure.  Although I have no leaves or pretty flowers to be sliced off at the heart by the sheer force of wind driven ice, I've had dreams and hopes cruelly dashed by turns of events and the actions of others that made me wonder, 

"Why?  Why me?"

Now as I have grown much older, I already know the answer to that life question.  I was lain upon that mighty anvil by God because it had to be that way.  I would not have wanted to be the same person that I was then.  There was so much more room to grow, and paths to be taken that would be quite different but would provide me with far greater and richer experiences to become a part of.  My hope at the end of my life would be that I became the person who I was intended to be all along.  

One thing for sure is this.
I'm thankful that my Maker is very patient.

These sunflowers grew just down the road from our old house here in town.  I saw them one morning back in 2015 when Mike and I were out for our early morning walk.  They reminded me of Kansas and all my friends and family back there.  

~now and always~

School has been out now for well over two weeks and summer school was dismissed just this past Friday.  The children have undoubtedly settled in for their well deserved vacations by now and I can only imagine the fun they must be having.  Swimming pools are filled with happy kids splashing one another in the crystal blue water and neighborhood backyards emit sounds of laughter, excitement,  and fun.  Trips to the library, softball or baseball,  and visits to grandmother's house are among the many activities I anticipate my former second graders will be participating in.  I told them that my assignment for the summer for them was to do one thing, and one thing only.

~have fun!~

I too have finally begun to settle in for my own summer break.  The first two days of it were a bit melancholy and sad, but things got better by about the 3rd day.  There is plenty to do around here, especially in the yard, and that will keep me occupied quite nicely.  I think of them, those special kids who were once mine this past year, and still smile at the remembrances of our fun and learning together.

You know, I have a question for you.  Have you ever thought about how you could help a classroom of children and their teacher during the school year?  If so, I have an assignment for you during the upcoming months of June and July that just might give you an answer to that question.  It's an assignment that anyone could do, no matter where you live.  It's one that any kind of kid going to any kind of school anywhere in this great land of ours could benefit from.  Perhaps as you read this, you might think of a classroom in your own community or a teacher you know who lives just down the street or even far, far away.

And here's that assignment for any of you who would like to help make a difference for children anywhere and everywhere across America.    

5 easy ways to help a classroom in your community~

• Collect Box Tops for Education.  Clip them all summer long and keep them stored in a zip lock bag until school begins.  Then send them to the school's office.  Encourage your friends to do the same and keep it up not only throughout the summer, but for the whole school year as well.  They are worth 10 cents each and before you say that doesn't seem like much money, you'd be surprised how quickly they should add up.  Budgets are onion skin thin as it is.  Every little bit, including box tops for education, counts.  
• Go to garage sales with the sole purpose of looking for gently used children's books.  Kids in my classroom utilize a little library concept and look forward to each Friday being able to choose a book for their very own to keep.  Lots of classrooms rely on books such as these to supplement their own collections.  Most of the time you can pick up used books for a little bit of nothing.  I've even known people to just give them to me when I mention they are for my students.  Reading is knowledge and that leads to power.  What a gift it is to put a good book into the hands of a hungry reader!
• Closer to school time, watch the sale ads for things like school supplies.  Pencils and erasers are the first items to run out of, it seems.  Picking up a couple of packages is usually fairly inexpensive.  Small boxes of crayons or a package of glue sticks are always going to be appreciated by teachers who often times foot the bill for this type of thing in order that everyone in class is taken care of.  And what we wouldn't give, especially during the time when flu and cold season arrives, for some extra boxes of Kleenex, hand sanitizer, or disinfectant wipes.  Those 3 items end up being mighty precious commodities come the months of December-March.
• Take an interest in the children of your neighborhood or those who attend Sunday School at your church.  Encourage them every chance you can.  Be their own personal "cheerleader", checking in on them often.  As school time gets closer, wish them a good year ahead and keep checking back with them as often as you can.  It takes more than a village some times to make sure that all children are being put into positions of being successful students and kids with great character.  
• If you are inclined to do so, please pray for teachers and students alike that our year would be successful and that no harm or danger would befall any of us.  By the way, prayer was never taken out of schools.  We'll take all the help and support that we can get.  Pray the kids and staff safely through the summer and keep those petitions going all year long. Check in with the teachers that you know at your local school and ask if there are any special needs for a prayer every now and then.  Chances are good that you will find them.  

Year #41 will be waiting for me to find it come the end of the summer of 2018.  Until then, I will be enjoying some time off and planning for the next school term to arrive.  I will be thinking of the kids and remembering always in my heart how truly blessed I was to have been their teacher.  New students are waiting for me and I can't imagine just how fun the time with them shall end up being.

God is good.

Now and always.

It's a privilege to teach for the Grandfield (Oklahoma) School District.  This group of folks represent people who are committed to providing the best education possible for the very fortunate kids who go to school there.  If you know of someone looking for a wonderful place to send their children to school at, Grandfield will be forever be at the number one spot of my own top 10 list.  

~and I intend so to do~

It will soon be a whole year since my sweet sister Sherry passed away.  June 16th of 2017 seems like yesterday and forever ago at the very same time.  I was blessed to be able to spend this past weekend with her two daughters, my nieces Brandy and Mandy.  We made a quick journey back to Kansas to visit their mom's grave and on the return trip home, we had the chance to visit their dad's grave at Ft. Sill National Cemetery near Elgin, Oklahoma.  It was a good trip, no wait a minute because actually it was better than good.  

It was great!


I've thought about how Sherry and Wes went so quickly, one right after the other almost.  After Sherry passed away, Wes only lived another 7 months or so.  Some hearts are meant to be together and perhaps that was indeed the case with them.  Sherry's health had been on the decline for several years and even though she struggled with COPD and CHF, she continued to smoke on a daily basis.  I'm thankful that she could finally give those cigarettes up, albeit too late, several weeks before she passed.  It was a very addictive habit and one that took her life away from all of us left behind.  I never really understood the power those sticks of nicotine had on her and I just am thankful to have never acquired the taste for one.  

My big sister and I were only 8 years apart in age from one another.  That only sounds like a huge gap when one starts kindergarten while the other enters the 8th grade.  The older we grew, the closer our ages seemed to become.  As we aged well into our 50's and 60's, I hardly even noticed that she was that much older.  Both of us had plenty in common and it was that which drew us even closer than we already were.  We vowed to grow old together and had our minds set upon it.

That didn't work out so well.

I have a desire to live a long life and hey, I'm shooting for at least my 100th birthday in 37 more years to come.  I know it's a lofty goal and I might even be crazy for wishing it, but I don't care.  Someone has to live to be a centenarian and what the heck?  The good Lord above willing, it might as well be me.

I've been thinking about health today and why Sherry didn't make it any longer than age 70 and what I need to be doing to make sure that I have half a chance to make it to the year 2055 without issues.  I may not be a smoker like she was, but I have a plethora of bad vices that are not conducive to making a healthy body, mind, and spirit.  I eat too much fast food and drink too many diet sodas instead of just plain old water.  I could use a much more structured exercise routine and at least 3 hours more sleep a night than I usually get.  It wouldn't hurt me to relax more and worry less, find a simple hobby, and hey maybe even take up some quiet meditation.  Perhaps the greatest gift I could give myself would be the ability to limit my time spent on the computer or on my phone.  There's no shortage of things I could do to start on a track of better health and living for myself.  I figure this summer before my 63rd year is the perfect time to do something good for myself, and you know what?

I intend so to do.

                                                       

 
Ok, ok so maybe I won't be taking up bowling again for an increase in my exercise regime and just to clarify it, I didn't really need to use the little dinosaur thing to guide my bowling ball down the alley.  

It could get to the gutter all by itself, thank you.  

~and if you should happen upon us~

Summer school ended today, two weeks after it began.  We were fortunate at our school to be able to offer a short, extended time for the kids to come back and work a bit more on their reading and math skills before heading home for "good" and enjoying their summer vacations.  I was so thankful that everyone in my class decided they would like to be a part of it and they came each day with positive attitudes and a right spirit about them.  It was wonderful to be able to spend some more time with them and make one last check of skills that I wanted to be sure they had a good handle on.

I have to admit that about an hour after the last little one had gone home with their mom, I felt more than a tinge of sadness about me.  It was a melancholy feeling that kind of crept up on me and took me by surprise.  I love summertime and the chance to rest and relax a little so I was ready for summer school to come to a close for myself and all the others as well.  That feeling of sadness was one that called out to me saying,

"Ok Peggy.  The kids are going home for the summer, so what are you going to do now?"

It was a sense of loss that I have felt from time to time in the course of the past 4 decades of working with children.  Ok, ok....who am I kidding here?  I don't feel it from time to time, rather I feel it pretty dang regularly.  When the kids go home for Thanksgiving, Christmas, or annual spring breaks I often find myself only a couple of days into our time off wishing for the days to pass quickly so we can all be together learning once again.  Summertime vacation at year's end is the worst time, especially for the first couple of weeks as I try to transition into life at home.  I always end up doing fine and a few weeks into it I look back and think how silly it was to feel that way.  

Yet I surely do.

My sister Sherry was just like me.  I watched her and saw the connection she made between her students and herself.  After nearly 43 years in education, her heart was filled just like mine is with the memories of positive experiences as a classroom teacher.  Sherry and I retired from teaching at the same time in May of 2010.  Neither of us was ready and we had many heartfelt conversations about why on earth we made the decision to call it quits in the first place.  By the time school rolled around in the fall, both of us had returned to work in the classroom.  Sherry stayed for another 3 years and I am still at it, 8 years later.  

Neither of us looked back.

In this, the summer before my 63rd year, I know that I cannot stay forever.   My days as an educator are dwindling down to a very precious few now.  Arbitrarily I have set another 3 years as my overall goal of remaining in teaching, and I pray that the good Lord will see fit for me to have a classroom of children to care for and to call my own.  Grandfield has been so wonderful to me and my prayer is that I get to remain there until my time is through.  I've been so blessed this past year and have no desire to go anywhere else.  My swan song in education will be played out on the Oklahoma prairies of Tillman County no matter how long I should end up staying.  

I'm not sure what I will do when I retire.  Every time I get this feeling of sadness that the year is over and no longer will I be the teacher of that particular group of students, I realize just how much of my being is invested in the lives of children.  I would be the first to say that it hurts sometimes to have to accept how fast the time goes, especially as I see retirement standing on the street corner, just a block down the street away from me.  I still have much that I want to do and I worry that time will run out before I am finished, and so I do the only thing I know how to do.

I just keep trying.

A few days before Sherry died, I was sitting on her hospital bed and we were talking about what would happen when she passed on.  We made a pact together to be buried side by side back home in a little country cemetery near our hometown in Kansas.   I asked Sherry if we should share the same gravestone and she said that we should.  She passed me over a notebook that she had with her, and we began to sketch out what we wanted that marker to look like.  There were things that we wanted to be sure were on it and I listened carefully to what my big sister said before transferring her thoughts onto the paper.  Soon that stone will be placed at our spot there in Laurel Cemetery and although it kind of seems strange for me to see what it will look like today, hopefully long before I am gone, I still am thankful to know that our wishes will be carried out when we both are gone from the earth

.  

If anyone should happen upon us in the years ahead, I hope that they read the inscription at the bottom of our marker and remember us in their hearts.  It would mean the world to Sherry and you know what?

It will mean the world to me too.

~and do you remember me?~

The span of 40 years' worth of time has provided me with many teacher moments.  I've been able to see youth in 4 different states come in and go out of my classroom door each year since January of 1979.  From the Kansas prairie to the mountains of southwestern Colorado and from both the north and the south sides of the Red River in Oklahoma and Texas, there is one thing for certain.

The life that I have lived has been rich in memories and blessed more than a thousandfold.  

I have taken so many photos of school children and activities that we participated in, especially so during the last 15 years.  I always felt it was important to be able to make a pictorial diary of the days that I spent with children who called me their teacher.  Every once in a while, I come across a special picture that jars a memory inside of me and one that pulls on my teacher's heart strings as it says......

"Do you remember me?"
And the answer is that yes, I surely do.

It was some time ago and the teacher I was back then was 6 years younger.  I had never heard of towns like Olathe, Colorado or Petrolia, Texas.  You might have told me there were places called Randlett or Grandfield, Oklahoma but I'd have to say the names didn't ring a bell to me.  I was a Kansas school teacher and teaching what I thought were to be my final years in education, never once dreaming that my life would end up taking the amazing detour that it would one year after this picture was taken.

The young man shown in the photo above was a member of the 4-H group that we began at our elementary building during the 2012-2013 school year.  He had a desire to raise baby quail as part of his project for the year and so we worked out a way to make that happen.  I remember taking him after school one day to pick up the newly hatched baby chicks and bringing them back to our school on the south side of Hutchinson.  That sweet kid sat there in the back seat of my car, looking in wonder at them and listening to their constant chatter.  I laugh now as I remember his comment to me when I asked him what he thought they were saying to one another.

"I have no idea what they are saying but you know what?  I think it is going to be like a song that I get stuck in my head!"
Yeah, I know what you mean little one.  Me too!

Those tiny things, that to me resembled miniature bumble bees at first, made their home in my classroom for the better part of a week.  There was much noise and chatter that emanated from their cardboard box each day and a fair share of pooping and peeing going on as well.  Children came in and looked at them on their way to and from school, always asking me how things were going.  The young boy whose project they were came in each day to feed and water them as well as clean out their litter.  At the end of the week when they went home with him, it was with pride that he walked out the door, ready to care for them all by himself at his own house.

Tell you what.  If someone from the state department of education would have visited and questioned me on which one of the many standards written for the state of Kansas matched up with the raising of baby quail in a classroom setting, I would have had the answer quite quickly.

"There are absolutely none that match up and as a teacher, I must say to you, why is that?  How did that get left out?  Omitted?"

As a veteran teacher and a sentimental old woman, I find myself getting braver all the time in how I look at and question the validity of things in regards to my profession and the education of thousands of children who will have come under my care and tutelage before it is all done for me.  Although I know absolutely full well how extremely important the coverage and mastery of all the many standards set forth are for each grade level and the subsequent passing of state tests, I fear we are losing sight of some of the most valuable and priceless lessons that can be taught to children and those are the lessons of life. 

That sweet child learned so many wonderful things while caring for those quail.  He found out that they have to be fed and watered.  Their litter box must be cleaned each and every day.  It's important to watch out for the bullies in the box, those who won't let certain chicks eat or drink when they need to.  You have to check the heat lamp and make sure it is in the just right position so they don't get too hot or too cold and perhaps he learned the most poignant lesson of all.  

Just like all living things, baby quail die.

I remember the morning when we lost the first one and I didn't know how to break it to him.  What do you say when you count the quail each day and all of a sudden, a subtraction problem comes to mind?  That first of several died early on and I didn't know how to say it.  He just looked at me with those beautiful little eyes and told me not to worry.  He had already figured it out.  I was supposed to teach him and he ended up teaching me.

Somewhere just a few miles from here, "the 10" are sleeping soundly in their beds.  When the sun comes up they will make their way by bus and car to our school at Grandfield Elementary.  We are down to only a mere few weeks before school is dismissed for the year.  I'm nearly out of time to teach them all they need to know to be successful third graders come this fall.  Even though we have worked diligently all year long, I fear there may be a few things that we haven't covered yet and so we keep at it utilizing all the days that remain.  

When everything is said and done on the final day of school, I know that I will have taught them that which is the most important to them anyways.  The days of their youth are the best time to learn the most valuable lessons of all.

The lessons of life~

~as we patiently wait~

~from our life upon the anvil~

     It's been a little over 5 weeks now since Mike lost his job, 37 days in all to contemplate how to change our course towards whatever lies ahead of us.  I've always likened times such as these to being laid upon God's mighty anvil as He reshapes us, sometimes rather painfully, and sends us forth on a new path.  We have survived this unplanned ordeal but the truth would surely be this.

     It's not the funnest thing a guy would ever want to do.

     Being down to one paycheck has taught us many things and perhaps the most important to us at this time is the lesson of being thankful for what we already have and surely most thankful for the many things that we do not.  I remember the weekend after Mike found out that he had just worked his final day, we took stock of what groceries we had on hand.  Mike and I emptied out all of the cupboards in the pantry and kitchen, lining up an assortment of food as each of us mentally made notes of what we might need to pick up at the store in order to get by until the next payday came for us.  It was not surprising to see that Mike and I had more than a  plenty of food and it was obvious that we would not ever need to worry about starving.  We did it in a very calm and logical manner.  It was not like we were panicking about anything, rather we just wanted to plan accordingly.  We have learned to make smarter decisions about whether or not to eat out, something that we did way too much of anyways.  Both of us can eat much healthier simply by eating at home, saving money along the way. 

     This unexpected journey has also taught us the value of staying busy and keeping ourselves occupied with plenty of things to accomplish around the house.  Between the times that Mike has been out looking for work or applying online for jobs, he's been diligently working in the back yard and finally getting some things accomplished that he'd been wanting to do for a long time.  Luckily he had many of the materials needed to do things already on hand.  For those materials that we didn't have, both of us made a conscious effort to think of any other way to accomplish the task without having to spend much money.  Many times we just repurposed various items that have been stored in both sheds since we moved into our home in January of 2016.  If we had to buy something we tried to get it at the best price possible.  So far, so good.  Mike could have chosen to sit around the house moping and worrying about everything.  Instead he chose a healthier way of coping with the unknown and little by little, the backyard is coming together at last.

     Perhaps the lesson that we needed to learn the most though is the one that teaches us to never give up.  It hasn't been easy in fact some days are downright hard but the times on God's anvil never are easy.  Hopefully the finished result, well at least finished until the next time on the anvil comes around, will be a better version of what life was meant to be for us.  The universe must still be aligning itself as far as Mike's next job is concerned.   Somewhere out there one person is moving on from a position that will some day go to Mike.  In the meantime, there is only one thing we can do.

    Patiently wait.

Mike is making a stone patio for the backyard and accomplishing a project he's been wanting to do for some time now.  It's a lot of work but he didn't give up, even when it might have been easy to quit on it.  It will look really nice when he finishes.    
     

     

~and it doesn't get any better than that, my friends~

Time is of the essence for me as a teacher.  With 24 days left on the school calendar before we all go home for our summer vacation, I'm reminded each day of all that is left to accomplish.  With about 3 years remaining before I really do call it done as a teacher and enter the world of whatever people do when they refer to themselves as retired, I get up each morning and head to school knowing one thing for certain.

After being a teacher for over 40 years, I will really miss this life something fiercely when all is said and done.

I've always been a teacher who way more enjoys teaching the lessons of life than I do teaching the prescribed curriculum and standards of any state that I've been privileged to be an educator in.  I make absolutely no bones about it.  While I know full well how important is to have children prepared to go successfully from one grade to the next and while I am surely aware of how important these state assessments we all go through across the United States each spring seem to be, believe me when I tell you that they are not the only lessons that children need to learn.  I say it over and over again and will until the day that I die.  

Some of my best lessons have the been the ones that are of life.

My 2nd grade kids at Grandfield Elementary in Oklahoma have been studying the U.S. and the geography of the states.  As part of our geographic literacy and awareness unit, we've been asking for folks to help us by sending a post card from what ever state they might be living in or even one that they love to take a vacation to.  I put out a message on my own personal social media page that requested post cards if anyone would so care to help us out.  That post ended up being shared nearly 350 times all across the state of Oklahoma and to all directions north, south, east, and west.   In the two weeks since that post went out, the kids have received many post cards, letters, and even some special gifts from folks along the way.  It's been so exciting about the 1:30 time of the afternoon as the mail is delivered to our room.  The kids always look forward to seeing what came addressed to us and so do I.

At present we have post cards from 36 of the states, leaving us only 14 yet to acquire.  We believe that we can meet our original goal of one that represents each of the states.   And you know what?  

We will!

Yesterday after I had taken the time to read 3 of the letters that came to the kids, I called them over to me and asked them to sit down so we could talk.  For a moment I looked them in the eyes, one by one, as I began to speak.  A little lump came in my throat and although I didn't cry, I felt like a tear could well up in my eyes. With pride in my voice and gratitude in my old teacher's heart, I told them how happy I was that so many people had seen our project and wanted to help.  And then I told them something most important to me, something that I sincerely believe that those second grade children should know.

"Boys and girls, I want you to know something.  You will often hear that the news is filled with bad things and bad people who don't always want the best for you and for me.  But I need you children to know something.  I want you to look for the good people, for those who do kind things for one another.  Look for the ones like the strangers who have sent you these post cards and have wished us well.   Trust me when I tell you that for every bad person, there are a million more people who are practicing the good.  They are out there.  We just have to look for them to see that it is true.  No matter what happens to you in this life, I always want you to look for the good."

My prayer is that they always will.

For the next couple of weeks, until May 1st, we will continue to try to gather as many post cards as we can.  After we finish up getting all of the 50 states taken care of, we will divide all of the duplicate post cards up among the class as well as share some with other classes at school.  Our hallway bulletin board that is just outside of our classroom has a U.S. map affixed to it and each post card is matched to its appropriate state by colored string.  It's filling up fast and we are so very happy.

So to all of you who read my post a few weeks back and shared it with your friends as well as to all of you who sent us a post card or a letter, you have our humble thanks.  Even though the original lesson was to help kids learn which states were in certain geographic sections of the country, it turned into a far greater and much more precious and valuable kind of lesson.  

It was one that was taught by over 350 people to little children who call the prairie of southwestern Oklahoma their home.  They were total strangers helping out kids simply because of their desire to make a positive difference in the life of a child they will probably never even meet.

It doesn't get any better than that my friends.

My little sister Cindy from back in Hutchinson, Kansas was one of over 300 people who shared my original post.  She knows the importance of taking a stake in the life of a child.  We are all in this together.  I'm the big sister on the left and she is the little sister on the right.  Out of 5 girls in all, we are the only two girls still living.  It's nice to have each other.